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SHOULD ONE MARRY OR COMPLETE THE STUDIES - Huma - 10-24-2004
Salaam all
YEAH.. U PPL ALREADY READ THE TOPIC, SO MY Q IS SOMEONE DOIND HER BBA, IS IN HER FINAL SEMESTER, SHOULD SHE GET MARRIED ( when not doing so means angry in laws and unlimited delay) OR COMPLETE THE STUDIES, KEEPING IN MIND THAT SHE HAS BEEN ENGAGED IN LAST 5 YEARS )
WHAT DO U PPL SAY)
- ali4u3 - 10-24-2004
yeh tu mai larki dekh ker bataoo ga naa
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- Huma - 10-24-2004
AAP nay larki kyon dekhni hay.. ?)
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- Azeem Shah Khan - 10-25-2004
hi huma
is she in a position to make such an important decision? i mean NORMALLY although girls are asked for their opinion but eventually the last say is always DIRECTED by the in-laws.
i m not an expert in social affairs, but i guess one must make a decision which is beneficial in the long run.
Do it now!!! or delay it!!! she knows better than anyone.....
Regards
azeem
- Pracs - 10-25-2004
Depends if this girl wants to pursue a career... moreover will her husband to be let her grow mentally.. furhter education or a job after she gets married... I think it s better to get married and then continue with whatever her plans are..all depends on understanding.. 5 years is a reasonable time to be engaged.. getting married is only logical.
by the way most girls in our country do pursue professional qualifications but then are too lazy to pursue a career once they are married..
no correct answer for this one...
"Allah does not change the state of people unless they change what is within themselves" Quran 1311
- Sarfaraz - 10-25-2004
u should get married as soon as possible yaar coz parhai to hoti rahe gee shadi kyon late karian
There is a will. There is a way.
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- smraza - 10-25-2004
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Salaam all
YEAH.. U PPL ALREADY READ THE TOPIC, SO MY Q IS SOMEONE DOIND HER BBA, IS IN HER FINAL SEMESTER, SHOULD SHE GET MARRIED ( when not doing so means angry in laws and unlimited delay) OR COMPLETE THE STUDIES, KEEPING IN MIND THAT SHE HAS BEEN ENGAGED IN LAST 5 YEARS )
WHAT DO U PPL SAY)
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Dear Huma,
Keeping in view the Pakistani enovironment of nowadays, the issue of marriages of daughters and sisters is going to be more critical nowadays, I have seen lot of girls (in my relatives and friends) who took the decision not to marry as they were studying and now their ages are around 30 to 35 and they are not getting any proposals, and their parents are too much worried about them.
Now coming to you question, she must got married, she can ask her pia jee that he will let her continue the studies after marriage. Look at the 5 years period, that is long enough, pia jee kay intezaar kee ghariaan khatam honee chahyain.
She must got married soon, as there is already shortage of good boys (like me) in the society <img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle><img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle><img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle><img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle><img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle>
SMR
- Huma - 10-25-2004
Thanks Guys, for replying... the problem is that girl is living abroad if she goes to pk without completing the bachelors then what opportunities is she left with?? as far as i know the insititutions like IBA doesn't give exemption,, and she is not in the mood of starting all over <img src=icon_smile_sad.gif border=0 align=middle>, and i know that she wants to do MBA after marriage,,,,
so really confused about what to do, as refusing to marry will mess everything up, as already have done that once,, and still everyone's mad..
- Ehrar_ACMA - 10-25-2004
Miss Huma
I agreed with SMRAZA..it is allready have been delayed...5 years is too much....If every thing is ready including both person that one shoult Bissmillah..It doesnot matter wheather her education has finsihed or not....The rest of the life she has to spend with her Piyya Jee..then let him decide to continue education or not....becoz now she is his responibility......
wasay by the way I have given this suggestion .even i my self un married...but y i m giving u this suggestion becoz i m before CIMA......let me finish it.then i will look for....CIMA but in urdu.........
I further agreed.there is shortage of Shreef & educated guys.u know.......most of the guys start CHeeers.....<img src=icon_smile.gif border=0 align=middle><img src=icon_smile.gif border=0 align=middle><img src=icon_smile.gif border=0 align=middle>as they see ...????....some one even on the forum.u kn ow better.......
Aray..MR???? dont take it personal..
Regards,
Kh. Ehrar Ul Hasan
APA,ACMA,CIA(Usa),MA(Eco),CIMA(Inter),IBP-Stage-I (Only Sky is the limit.$$$.....
- Augustus - 10-25-2004
Well Miss Huma, if girl is really unable to make a decision then in my opinion the best way to decide is " Istakhara" and then do what the results come as i think this is the best way to seek Allah's help when someone is unable to decide.
- Huma - 10-25-2004
How come the girl is PIYA JI's responsibility before marriage, even after marriage she is an independent person.. <img src=icon_smile_sad.gif border=0 align=middle>
That she sould be her own decison wether to continue or discontiue the studies<img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle>
- Huma - 10-25-2004
Thanks mr Augustus,,
that is probably the best reply so far.. i will try doing that and then decide<img src=icon_smile_shy.gif border=0 align=middle>
Regards
Huma
- Ehrar_ACMA - 10-25-2004
Miss Huma
Education is not primary decision after marriage..there r so many things...if they have good understanding they can decide any thing easily wat ever they want .....& as far as personal responsibility is concern it becomes only after marriage not before....
Regards,
Kh. Ehrar Ul Hasan
APA,ACMA,CIA(Usa),MA(Eco),CIMA(Inter),IBP-Stage-I (Only Sky is the limit.$$$.....
- Huma - 10-25-2004
goody, mr ehrar, here i do agree, the responsibility comes after teh marriage.. Anyway i guess have to search for the opportunities one can have if want to migrate to want and continue the studies there, and i already know IBA is not the place i can get into as they won't give any exemptions,, while i only have one semester left at that point of time..
- Ehrar_ACMA - 10-27-2004
Miss Huma
Now u have got the valuable replies from no. of memebers on the forum
Now we want to know at last, what have u decided..to study or marry
If u ve selected the second one then plz dont forget us for Biryaani ,.. Qoorma....etc.....
Regards.
Kh. Ehrar Ul Hasan
APA,ACMA,CIA(Usa),MA(Eco),CIMA(Inter),IBP-Stage-I (Only Sky is the limit.$$$.....