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- raza 123 - 08-30-2010
Congrats For Umrah - )
- ciapk - 08-30-2010
Ways to Keep Your Husbandâs Love
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a femaleâa man doesnât want a man for his wife!
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, donât stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Smell good!
4. Donât lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
5. Donât keep asking him, âwhat are you thinking?â
6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah taâala gives you something really to complain about.
7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either
a. Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or
b. Amicable divorce
8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights
10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.
Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
11. Compliment him on the things you know heâs not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.
12. Tell him heâs the best husband ever.
13. Call his family often.
14. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
15. When heâs talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like youâre interested.
16. Encourage him to do good deeds.
17. If heâs in a bad mood, give him some space. Heâll get over it, inshaAllah.
18. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. Itâs a big deal.
19. If heâs angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while youâre quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when heâs calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
20. When youâre mad at him, donât say âYOU make me furiousâ, rather, âThis action makes me upsetâ. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.
21. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
22. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if theyâre good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesnât feel âcooped upâ at home.
23. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.
24. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.
25. Donât get mad over small things. Itâs not worth it.
26. Make jokes. If youâre not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.
27. Tell him youâre the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know youâre good at.
28. Learn to make his favorite dish.
29. Donât ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husbandâand other people also think you have a bad husband.
30. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If youâre a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.
31. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.
Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like heâs your servant. âThey are garment to each otherâ [Surah Baqarah, 2187]
32. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (#1585;#1590;#1575;#1604;#1604;#1607; #1593;#1606;#1607;#1575
narrated that the Prophet (#1589;#1604;#1610; #1575;#1604;#1604;#1607; #1593;#1604;#1610;#1607; #1608;#1587;#1604;#1605 used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like âa knot.â And the next time he would ask her, âHow is that knot?â He also used to reply to her saying, âJazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.â33. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.
34. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.
35. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, donât laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.
36. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.
37. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.
38. Donât discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.
39. The way to a manâs heart is through his stomach.
40. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the âdoughâ. It makes it easier for him to go to work.
41. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.
42. Brush your hair, everyday.
43. Donât forget to do laundry.
44. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.
45. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)
46. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.
47. Try not to go shopping too much ⦠and spend all his money.
48. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
49. Learn tricks and âtechniquesâ to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)
50. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).
51. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.
52. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, donât wait until matters become worse.
53. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like duâah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.
54. Donât EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example donât say, âwell her husband doesnât do that, why do you â¦â (thats a killer!)
55. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllahâand of course, vice versa!
56. Strive for Allahâs love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allahâs love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And rememberâif Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.
57. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesnât take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel
58. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allah preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners, ameen! InshaAllah
- WARDAH - 08-30-2010
@Osama....Mubarak ho dear.
@ciapk....luvly again!![)] thanks dear.
- Safoora - 08-30-2010
@ciapk... a nice share! absolutely worth reading )
- ciapk - 08-30-2010
Welcom All.
Osama Mabrook ya akhi, ab jana tu meray liay be Dua krna brother.
- Anamz1 - 08-30-2010
Dear Osama,
Bohat Mubarik ho it is really a blessing as Allah ny aap ky darjat mazeed buland farma diy. Congratulations alot. But please do remember in prayers.
- yasir_live - 08-31-2010
Osama.
Mabrook. Samajh kar Umrah karo Tu waqai bohat itminan hota hay, Main nay ek say do martaba itni hi lagan k saath umrah kia tha Aur mujhay khoob zehni satisfaction hui thi. Chalo yeh bhi acha hua k Tum kamaskam khud k liay dua karna nahi bhoolay.
Ciapk.
Mukhtasar Yeh k Husband or Wife ko ek doosray ki khoob chamchagiri karni chaiyay ) Kidding. Aap ki iss baat per mujhay kareena kapoor ki ek baat yaad arahi hay "The way to a manâs heart is through his stomach " in which she disagree with this phrase Aur phir pata haina uss nay kya jawaab dia tha )
dakh lo Larkion Mard becharay ko khush rakhnay k liay sirf 58 cheezain Aur Aurton ko khush rakhnay k liay 60 cheezain. Hence proved k Aurton ko khush rakhna ziada mushkil hota hay )
Regards.
- WARDAH - 08-31-2010
kia jwab dia tha? kis movie mai mainy ni daikhi.lol ab tajasus ho rha hai.
hahahahaha gud at counting n conclusion.hahahahaha
- yasir_live - 08-31-2010
Wardah Dear.
Dear Abb main kya bataun, Khair Woh film ka naam yaad nahi kafi saal purani hay lakin jawaab zehan main agaya tha Achanak say Ciapk ki post perh kar.
I am sure Ciapk nay copy-paste mara hay khud nahi likha hoga. Pehlay BV ko khush rakhnay k 60 tareekay jiss main say 30 aap apni saali per bhi apply kar saktay hain Aur Abb 58 points husbands ko khush rakhnay k liay.
Regards.
- Sarfaraz Khan - 08-31-2010
har bat ko mazakh main nahi laina chaye..
- ciapk - 08-31-2010
Hahahhahahaha, zahir hay agree kr k he post ki hay. It mean k 30 tu kisi py b apply ho jatay hain Bivi k liay 30 bchay so bivi ko khush rakhna asan hoa -)
- WARDAH - 08-31-2010
wah wah wahhhhhhhhhhhh kia pt mara hai ciapk...cha gae!! yasir ki tain tain fish!! ainwain bichari kuriyan bdnaam hain itni pyari or masoom mkhlooq bnai hai Allah ny.do jumly pyar k bol do sb gily shikwy shikayatain bhool jati hain.choti choti baton py hi jht khush ho jati hain.jo mian kahay usi ko sch maan laiti hain as unki nazer main unsy ziada acha or scha hai hi ni koi.girls r faries.sweet n elegant!!
- Sarfaraz Khan - 08-31-2010
ja kar pani pe lain..ap ka roza toot gaya$
- WARDAH - 08-31-2010
kiska roza toot gya or kaisy or kio??????????????????????
- Sarfaraz Khan - 08-31-2010
sare aqalmand samjh gai hon gai maire bat ..tumhare post parh k....akhrooot D..