09-22-2003, 03:30 PM
The issue of L. or ARR. marriage should be analyzed in keeping the view the success rate of both. The love marriages are still experiencing higer rate of failure.
It is clear that love marriage are result of childish behaviour. It is hard to teach a child from demanding a toy or any thing which he has wished for. The person who is getting in love with opposite gender is deprived of normal social behaviour. The reason behind this view is his ignorance of the fact that he has been loved so much by his/ or HER family, the respect of that family will be put under question by his teenage mistake. Atleast in our society (in most of the cases) he will lose the support from the family, the peoples, his or HER parents who have loved him or HER for so many years. He is so much concerned with his or HER selfish wish that he or SHE is willing to sacrifice all of them, all of loving people just for one girl or BOY whom he or SHE knows just for months. Is it not selfish behaviour?
The same tendency is applied by the boy or GIRL in their married life. They still remain selfish just wanting to enforce their own wish, no matter they lose their family again, (this they have already done once for their own selfish wish) So this is the reason for high rate of 'love marriage failure'.
The people should admit that the boy and GIRLS who fall in love do it casually so it should not be hard to sacrifice a casual thing over a more respectful, dignified, more firm thing (family).
NOTE I HAVE USED CAPS FOR FEMALES AS THEY GET MORE TROUBLE WITH LOVE MARRIAGE. THEIR FAMILY GETS IN MORE TROUBLE THEN THAT OF BOYS'.
It is clear that love marriage are result of childish behaviour. It is hard to teach a child from demanding a toy or any thing which he has wished for. The person who is getting in love with opposite gender is deprived of normal social behaviour. The reason behind this view is his ignorance of the fact that he has been loved so much by his/ or HER family, the respect of that family will be put under question by his teenage mistake. Atleast in our society (in most of the cases) he will lose the support from the family, the peoples, his or HER parents who have loved him or HER for so many years. He is so much concerned with his or HER selfish wish that he or SHE is willing to sacrifice all of them, all of loving people just for one girl or BOY whom he or SHE knows just for months. Is it not selfish behaviour?
The same tendency is applied by the boy or GIRL in their married life. They still remain selfish just wanting to enforce their own wish, no matter they lose their family again, (this they have already done once for their own selfish wish) So this is the reason for high rate of 'love marriage failure'.
The people should admit that the boy and GIRLS who fall in love do it casually so it should not be hard to sacrifice a casual thing over a more respectful, dignified, more firm thing (family).
NOTE I HAVE USED CAPS FOR FEMALES AS THEY GET MORE TROUBLE WITH LOVE MARRIAGE. THEIR FAMILY GETS IN MORE TROUBLE THEN THAT OF BOYS'.
