07-19-2007, 11:56 PM
Dear Imran and Coollioness,
I was basically discussing the factors behind creation of love in hearts and causing attraction or affection for each other. Human being has been given a mortal body and every thing attached to body has its attributes for the mortal body. The attributes of soul are very difficult, although not imposisble, to be intelinked with the body. My discussion no where meant that physical desires in love are purposed to be fulfilled before getting into a marriage venture.
The aim was to explain that physical attraction and some hidden desire always works as a basic facor to initiate the love affair and also works as a catalyst as the affair proceeds. This eventually ends up, or in other words, gets matured or reachs at its climax on marriage between two humans.
Theoratically speaking one can say that love does not emerge form the cultivation of some physical desire. But the argument which always pinchs me is, if it is true, then why we dont (normally) love very poor / out of our class (as every person belongs to a class), ugly faced, badly represented, illiterate person. Why we always search for a better personality and better oppurtunity and ultimately love someone who is as per our standard. I dont talk about the very very rare cases but why normally the love does not cut out the distance of a palace and a hut (Jhuggi).
You know this is a very important question. I find its answer in the above discussion that in this material world every thing is based upon material i.e. substance, gas or liquid. Our wordly desires and decisions have to be attributed to these elements. I dont agree that love is caused by the attractions of the souls. It is, in my firm opinion, caused by body's attributes. It has been proved medically. So many harmones work inside this body to create so many reflexes and feelings. One needs to discuss this issue at length with some scientist or doctor and he will know so much details about the creation of such feelings. I dont go into the details.
I was supposed to talk into the perspective of reality and was not inclined to present some artistic snap of this affair or to figure out the tale of ALAF LAILA based upon fictional idealogy.
If some one wants to remain surrounded by the un-real thoughts and beliefs, it is his/her prerogative. I am thankful to those who have at various stages of time clarified different things to me and helped me to reach a stage of conclusion.
Mr. Imran said that he married a female (our bhaabhi) after finding her on the net. It's very good for them and I appreciate their involvement and courage. I also congratulate them for the success of their love. Where I talked about internet stories, I no where condemned it. Yes, I said it has become very popular among the new generation. I myself found my love on the net. I also met her face to face so many times (within all restrictions, as pointed out by Coollioness). I always appreciated the courage, involvement, modesty and truth of that female. I remained true to her as well. Circumstances did not support the continuty and the story was ended up. This does not simply accuse the internet. There are so many situations which lead to the incidents. Like other facilities internet is also a technical facility and if used carefully and wisely it has its merits for every one.
However, I would again say that desire to achieve the love, to get married with him/her and pain for losing some one's desired company has the physical attributes. Simply loving some one and not disclosing this fact and never desiring the company with sincerity is no where seen by me in real love affairs. (I dont talk about flirts).
Mr. Sajid Naveed Khan, I refer you to study a book written by Saleema Hashmi titled "HUSSAIN BIN MANSOOR HALLAAJ - AIK GHINAAIYA". You will find the definition of love.
Bets regards,
Kamran.
I was basically discussing the factors behind creation of love in hearts and causing attraction or affection for each other. Human being has been given a mortal body and every thing attached to body has its attributes for the mortal body. The attributes of soul are very difficult, although not imposisble, to be intelinked with the body. My discussion no where meant that physical desires in love are purposed to be fulfilled before getting into a marriage venture.
The aim was to explain that physical attraction and some hidden desire always works as a basic facor to initiate the love affair and also works as a catalyst as the affair proceeds. This eventually ends up, or in other words, gets matured or reachs at its climax on marriage between two humans.
Theoratically speaking one can say that love does not emerge form the cultivation of some physical desire. But the argument which always pinchs me is, if it is true, then why we dont (normally) love very poor / out of our class (as every person belongs to a class), ugly faced, badly represented, illiterate person. Why we always search for a better personality and better oppurtunity and ultimately love someone who is as per our standard. I dont talk about the very very rare cases but why normally the love does not cut out the distance of a palace and a hut (Jhuggi).
You know this is a very important question. I find its answer in the above discussion that in this material world every thing is based upon material i.e. substance, gas or liquid. Our wordly desires and decisions have to be attributed to these elements. I dont agree that love is caused by the attractions of the souls. It is, in my firm opinion, caused by body's attributes. It has been proved medically. So many harmones work inside this body to create so many reflexes and feelings. One needs to discuss this issue at length with some scientist or doctor and he will know so much details about the creation of such feelings. I dont go into the details.
I was supposed to talk into the perspective of reality and was not inclined to present some artistic snap of this affair or to figure out the tale of ALAF LAILA based upon fictional idealogy.
If some one wants to remain surrounded by the un-real thoughts and beliefs, it is his/her prerogative. I am thankful to those who have at various stages of time clarified different things to me and helped me to reach a stage of conclusion.
Mr. Imran said that he married a female (our bhaabhi) after finding her on the net. It's very good for them and I appreciate their involvement and courage. I also congratulate them for the success of their love. Where I talked about internet stories, I no where condemned it. Yes, I said it has become very popular among the new generation. I myself found my love on the net. I also met her face to face so many times (within all restrictions, as pointed out by Coollioness). I always appreciated the courage, involvement, modesty and truth of that female. I remained true to her as well. Circumstances did not support the continuty and the story was ended up. This does not simply accuse the internet. There are so many situations which lead to the incidents. Like other facilities internet is also a technical facility and if used carefully and wisely it has its merits for every one.
However, I would again say that desire to achieve the love, to get married with him/her and pain for losing some one's desired company has the physical attributes. Simply loving some one and not disclosing this fact and never desiring the company with sincerity is no where seen by me in real love affairs. (I dont talk about flirts).
Mr. Sajid Naveed Khan, I refer you to study a book written by Saleema Hashmi titled "HUSSAIN BIN MANSOOR HALLAAJ - AIK GHINAAIYA". You will find the definition of love.
Bets regards,
Kamran.
