06-30-2010, 04:30 PM
This topic has a lot of potential and discussion can be never ending. In my opinion, not only on this topic but in every walk of life, one should seek guidance from Quran and Sunnah. It is very shameful for us that we seek advice of our friends, common books and journals but never turn to Islam for guidance even though we know that nothing else can guide us better. Islam has very clearly and beautifully explained the criterion for selection of life partner and their relationship, duties and rights. In selection more emphasis is on âTaqwahâ and âCare for familyâ. In one hadith it has been mentioned that a man marries a woman for many reasons and the best reason for selection of wife should be her âTaqwahâ. In another hadith a certain clan of the tribe Quraish has been mentioned for having the best women as they are more loving and kind to their children and more protective of her and her husbandâs belongings (means to select the one who would prove best not only for you but also for your children and family). Keeping this in mind, one should consider not only his own wishes, likes and dislikes but also how that selection will affect the children and other family members. I recommend that you should read the book titled âTogether Foreverâ written by Faiz Sayal. While I might not agree with the entire contents of the book, the book beautifully compiles relationships of the couple and their families before engagement, after engagement and after marriage, with references to Islam.
