08-02-2010, 07:11 PM
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well people do not tell others every thing about their past in very start of their relationships and its quite normal as well as logical
however when some one feels to know that he/she is to develope a close relationship with other person and the other person also looks forward to build such type of relationship then at that time both persons should discuss their past with each others with 100% truth only (and it should also include their mistakes and mishaps -- as a wise person will never ever ask justifications/question from his/her fellow regarding his/her past mistakes (its almost same like English people approach which unfortuatley is badly required in our society now as most of us have been effected by media role in our lives (i dont care who u r where u from what u did as long as u r mine type approach)))
but if even that time they dont share such things with each other and later on one of two comes to know about such thing he/she will surely mind it but may be still its ok as it was about the past of other person (depends very much on the mentality of other person)
but the worst situation is where they have bounded them with each other and during this time they hide a vital fact which later on comes in to knowledge of other person from some other source then its better that they leave each other for ever as trust when broken cant be rebuilted.
and about ur question of telling the reason it depends how u want to end the relation and what effects u want on other person cause of ur decision
if u want to give him/her mental tension then dont tell
and if u want him/her to remember u in good words then do tell him/her as he/she will then do know that it was his/her fault that cause u go away from him/her.
hope so u get what i have said and what u wanted
regards
well people do not tell others every thing about their past in very start of their relationships and its quite normal as well as logical
however when some one feels to know that he/she is to develope a close relationship with other person and the other person also looks forward to build such type of relationship then at that time both persons should discuss their past with each others with 100% truth only (and it should also include their mistakes and mishaps -- as a wise person will never ever ask justifications/question from his/her fellow regarding his/her past mistakes (its almost same like English people approach which unfortuatley is badly required in our society now as most of us have been effected by media role in our lives (i dont care who u r where u from what u did as long as u r mine type approach)))
but if even that time they dont share such things with each other and later on one of two comes to know about such thing he/she will surely mind it but may be still its ok as it was about the past of other person (depends very much on the mentality of other person)
but the worst situation is where they have bounded them with each other and during this time they hide a vital fact which later on comes in to knowledge of other person from some other source then its better that they leave each other for ever as trust when broken cant be rebuilted.
and about ur question of telling the reason it depends how u want to end the relation and what effects u want on other person cause of ur decision
if u want to give him/her mental tension then dont tell
and if u want him/her to remember u in good words then do tell him/her as he/she will then do know that it was his/her fault that cause u go away from him/her.
hope so u get what i have said and what u wanted
regards
