07-03-2010, 02:24 AM
Well the topic is specificly about 2nd chance to give or not to give to ur friends
when u have finnaly found out k
they have
1-betrayed/deceived you
2-lied to you on continously basis
3-taken u as granted
4-tried to be smart with u (make fool of u)
5-caused some physical or psycological or financial harm to u intentionally
6-jalousy of u (cause they cant stand with ur progress,fame,ability)
7-prefered some one else upon u (caused harm to ur self ego in this way (i have not used self ego in negative sence in here))
and
8-used u for their own sake.
personlay speaking i have given 2nd chance to three persons in my life
1st two of the persons did the same mistakes again so i never gave them 3rd chance
only the 3rd person a very good friend of that and this time of mine proved the value of 2nd chance and i am always thankful
to him for this(as i m bad in making friends and worst in retaining them (have made 2-3 friends only in last 7-8 years)
however i m good enough in having sincere usual/routine hello hi with others)
@Sensible as u have told that u never like to give second chance to any one.will u like to tell the reason of such attitude of urs plz?
(i m sure at break up point u might not argue at all with the other person or tell him/her his/her act which might have caused u to reach at such decision but just to tell the person his/her approach in precise words would be enough for u)
@Wardah u always seems to be an open minded forgiving type person who doesnt mind whatever the other person says to her when later on such person says k i have just joked with u or i was kidding not serious at all etc
(and i do beleive u expect same type of behaviour from others too but its very rare that some one do so up to the extent u desired)
my questions from u are
<b>
what to do
when relationship become sort of laibility?
when one of the persons cant trust the other one because he/she thinks k other one lie to him/her very oftenly?
when most of time together is spent in asking/giving clerifications cause of lack of trust?
when the other person feels continouse strong mental pressure cause of u should he/she adopt ur style of forgiving and forgetting all the times (despite such pressure) or should he/she left u in a proper /decent/rememberable/good way ended style so that later upon both may remember each other in good manner.
or is there some way in ur view to continue even in existance of all circumstances mentioned above at start of topic?
</b>
@anamz u seems like a sensitive girl in this regard <b>too</b> what is ur opinion about 2nd chance?
@Yasir,Ciapk and others - you may also contribute do reply the questions in bold format in context of any/all circumstance(s)specified at start of topic.
at end i will like to quote an sms i like most
<b> When people walk away from u,let them go.Your destiny is never tied to anybody who leaves u and it doesnt mean k they are always cruel. It's just that k their part in your life story is over"</b>
Regards
when u have finnaly found out k
they have
1-betrayed/deceived you
2-lied to you on continously basis
3-taken u as granted
4-tried to be smart with u (make fool of u)
5-caused some physical or psycological or financial harm to u intentionally
6-jalousy of u (cause they cant stand with ur progress,fame,ability)
7-prefered some one else upon u (caused harm to ur self ego in this way (i have not used self ego in negative sence in here))
and
8-used u for their own sake.
personlay speaking i have given 2nd chance to three persons in my life
1st two of the persons did the same mistakes again so i never gave them 3rd chance
only the 3rd person a very good friend of that and this time of mine proved the value of 2nd chance and i am always thankful
to him for this(as i m bad in making friends and worst in retaining them (have made 2-3 friends only in last 7-8 years)
however i m good enough in having sincere usual/routine hello hi with others)
@Sensible as u have told that u never like to give second chance to any one.will u like to tell the reason of such attitude of urs plz?
(i m sure at break up point u might not argue at all with the other person or tell him/her his/her act which might have caused u to reach at such decision but just to tell the person his/her approach in precise words would be enough for u)
@Wardah u always seems to be an open minded forgiving type person who doesnt mind whatever the other person says to her when later on such person says k i have just joked with u or i was kidding not serious at all etc
(and i do beleive u expect same type of behaviour from others too but its very rare that some one do so up to the extent u desired)
my questions from u are
<b>
what to do
when relationship become sort of laibility?
when one of the persons cant trust the other one because he/she thinks k other one lie to him/her very oftenly?
when most of time together is spent in asking/giving clerifications cause of lack of trust?
when the other person feels continouse strong mental pressure cause of u should he/she adopt ur style of forgiving and forgetting all the times (despite such pressure) or should he/she left u in a proper /decent/rememberable/good way ended style so that later upon both may remember each other in good manner.
or is there some way in ur view to continue even in existance of all circumstances mentioned above at start of topic?
</b>
@anamz u seems like a sensitive girl in this regard <b>too</b> what is ur opinion about 2nd chance?
@Yasir,Ciapk and others - you may also contribute do reply the questions in bold format in context of any/all circumstance(s)specified at start of topic.
at end i will like to quote an sms i like most
<b> When people walk away from u,let them go.Your destiny is never tied to anybody who leaves u and it doesnt mean k they are always cruel. It's just that k their part in your life story is over"</b>
Regards
