Abnormal Marriage

[Distracted]

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<br />whats age of that lady?
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around 44

[WARDAH]

44 is not much age if he is 10-15 years younger then her.or waqai mai kia pta uski umr lbmi likhi ho Allah ny to jis soch sy ye shadi kr rha hai wo soch baad mai bhari pry is pay.as wo pyar to krta ni us sy ( mai phir kahon gi k humdardi k pichy ------ soch hi lgti hai )

[bizmen]

and whats the age of dulha sb?

[imdad1]

@ agreed with wardah!

[Distracted]

he is around 20 yrs younger than her.........

[bizmen]

well...age factor ki waja se problem to hoti hain but zaroori nahee hai...can be a successful marriage. jo baat ghalat lagti hai woh hai un sahab ka advance mein irada keh doosri shadi karega jab woh lady mazeed old age ho jayengee. but on the other hand if she knows this fact and she agrees to this marriage then un sahab ki niyet Allah behatar jane but otherwise mujhe koi problem nazar nahee atee.

[WARDAH]

its mean 24 . .. . hmmm!! khatoon gr manin to bywakoofi krain gi blky wo bichari apni tnhai k dard k haton mari jain gi. but unko chahye k wo strong bnain unko yaqenan bohat acha sathi mil hi jae ga but is sy shadi kr k wo mazeed takleef hi uthain gi jb ye aql-o-shaor ki manzil pr pohncha or apny faisly py shrminda ho k apni age k kuri sy shadi krny gya.as usko to kisi ny rokna ni hai (woi back humdrdi) nuqsan un khatoon ka hi hoga k phir wo waqai mai tnha ho jain gi.

[bizmen]

totally agreed with WARDAH

[bizmen]

Topic hee 'Abnormal marriage' hai to zahir hai abnormal marriage hee hai.

[Distracted]

topic ka nam me ny apny point of view k mutabik rkha hy
or ap logo k sath share kia comments lainy k lie

[Osama Rules]

Salam,

There is nothing wrong in marrying twice or having two wives,infact it's a practice that is encouraged in Islam.

Your friend's case is confusing though....[8)]

There should be an element of love in marriage even though this might not be the dominating factor.....so,if your friend is willing to marry this old lady & later marry some other girl without divorcing this old lady,in my view there is nothing worng or abnormal in this.BUT it should be kept in mind that later on it would be difficult for him to do justice between two wives of his.

Regards

[ciapk]

I am agreed with Osama, there is nothing abnormal in this case, he should proceed but after doing Istikhara.

[WARDAH]

but ajeeb ni k pyar bhi ni krta phir bhi willing to marry.y?y?y?y?

[ciapk]

Shadi sirf pyar k liay he nai ki jati or na sirf shadi sy pehlay pyar hona zarori hay, agr wo aik social responsibility smaj k kuch acha krna chahta hay tu he should do that, un khatoon ko sahara mil jay ga or sr chupanay ki jga b jahan wo apna ghr smj k reh skay or baqi rahi dosri shadi ki bat tu agr zarorat mehsos ho tu zror kray bjay is k k kuch ghalat kray. Muhammad SAW ny hr kam kr k dikhaya takay ummat koi qbahat mehsoos na kray, Hazrat Khudaija RA AP say 15-20 sal k qreeb he bri thin or AP nay bewaoon sy isi liay shadian kin k yay arab main acha nahin smja jata tha un rasmon ko tornay k liay.

[WARDAH]

maira point bus itna sa hai k boht soch smjh k donon faisla lain ta k agay ja k kisi ko bhi apny faisly py pchtawa na ho.
distracted. . .jb wo decide kr ly na or shadi kr ly then do tell us.(waisy tum ny yeh ni btaya k lrky k walidain bhi razi hain k ni?)