09-23-2010, 02:25 PM
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<br />back to topic..............to all buddies.......jo takreer mainy frmai thi apni sabiqa post mai topic sy related usy prh k ab mai literally hs rai hon.kio k jo para mairy hath lga hai usko prh k to sb gud mud hi hogya hai.ab to mujhy bhi is love for once ki smjh ni arai....dont know wether my explaination was right or wrong but tb jo mujhko smjh aya mainy keh dia.khair sharing it with u all.....kuch roshni dalna ager mairi trhan hsny sy farig ho jao wo para or mairi post k comparison ko to )
Every day everywhere, people fall in love...but just how many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love?
I know hundreds of people who say the magical words "I love you"...but more often than not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you.
There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the present you.
This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale lasts. When fairy godmother comes in at midnight to whirl us back to reality, we see the heartache of such a relationship...where both were only IN love with each other.
But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the past and who you might be in the future. When he/she says he/she loves you and really means it, you have to ask yourself if you love him/her too or if you're in love with the idea of being in love. It is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking.
Let your heart guide u and ur mind lead u.
(now i dont know what to say further.hahahahhahahaa)
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U know what there are alot of bookish things that really seems awsome while reading or hearing
but
they are not applicable in practical life up to same extent or at all. and if u do try to apply them u will have nothing in ur hands in the end cause others will act/react as per what is in trend not as per what is in books
Ever u thought why percentage of divorce in love marriage is greater then same in arrange marriage?
reason is simple both the parties were in love or fell in love (for me to fall in love or to be in love dosent mean much different) with each other earlier and they thought that they can be perfect couple as they can continue to love each other unconditionally but after marriage things change at once.
They come to know that they need to adjust which obviously need some limitations some restrictions some alteration how one of them deal other partner or other surrounding people some maturity towards life and some changes in attitudes etc and obiviously all of this with same level of affection,understanding,love and care they were used to have for each other before marriage.
this is very critical part of marriage then cause if one of the spouse wants to have him/herself as he/she was before marriage and the other one want him/her to adjust and they both dont show flexibility then ultimatly their love/care/understanding towards each other start diminishing and in worst situations it ends.
at that time if couple have kids they compromise for them (but in some of the they even dont do so)
so dear i think so behtar yeah hay k banda arrange marriage karay k iss main dosray say app ko koi ziadha expectations nahi hoti (love k kia hay baad main hota rahay ga apni spouse say nahi tu kissi or say lolz)
otherwise agger app kissi k love main fall ker chukay ho ya kissi ko apnay dil main jaggah day chukay hoo tu other party ko pehlay he bata doo samjha doo k main aisa/aisi hoon and tumhain aisa daikhna chahta/chahti hoon tum khud ko adjust ker sakti/saktay hoo meray liyeah tu well and good we can continue otherwise bye bye ta ta tum apni rah khush main apni rah khush
(waisay bhi i think so k love main itni power honi chaheay k yeah app ko wisa bana day jaisa dosra app ko daikhna chahta hay bina ous k kahay)
aik sawal hay meray pass though directly relevent to nahi hay lakin iska answer ralevent hay
i have seen/heard of people who have two wives both under love marriages can u people think and post the reasons.
hope to see healty debate on this by all members
especially ciapk from u cause tum hi aik hoo joe practically explain ker saktay hoo but bhai insurance ker wa layna pehlay agger sub kuch such such bolna hooo tu
or haan agger bhabhi bhi iss topic per aker bolna chahian tumhari 20-25 buraiyaan kerna chahian tu kuch ziadha informative discussion hojayegi lolz
regards
<br />back to topic..............to all buddies.......jo takreer mainy frmai thi apni sabiqa post mai topic sy related usy prh k ab mai literally hs rai hon.kio k jo para mairy hath lga hai usko prh k to sb gud mud hi hogya hai.ab to mujhy bhi is love for once ki smjh ni arai....dont know wether my explaination was right or wrong but tb jo mujhko smjh aya mainy keh dia.khair sharing it with u all.....kuch roshni dalna ager mairi trhan hsny sy farig ho jao wo para or mairi post k comparison ko to )
Every day everywhere, people fall in love...but just how many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love?
I know hundreds of people who say the magical words "I love you"...but more often than not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you.
There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the present you.
This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale lasts. When fairy godmother comes in at midnight to whirl us back to reality, we see the heartache of such a relationship...where both were only IN love with each other.
But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the past and who you might be in the future. When he/she says he/she loves you and really means it, you have to ask yourself if you love him/her too or if you're in love with the idea of being in love. It is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking.
Let your heart guide u and ur mind lead u.
(now i dont know what to say further.hahahahhahahaa)
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U know what there are alot of bookish things that really seems awsome while reading or hearing
but
they are not applicable in practical life up to same extent or at all. and if u do try to apply them u will have nothing in ur hands in the end cause others will act/react as per what is in trend not as per what is in books
Ever u thought why percentage of divorce in love marriage is greater then same in arrange marriage?
reason is simple both the parties were in love or fell in love (for me to fall in love or to be in love dosent mean much different) with each other earlier and they thought that they can be perfect couple as they can continue to love each other unconditionally but after marriage things change at once.
They come to know that they need to adjust which obviously need some limitations some restrictions some alteration how one of them deal other partner or other surrounding people some maturity towards life and some changes in attitudes etc and obiviously all of this with same level of affection,understanding,love and care they were used to have for each other before marriage.
this is very critical part of marriage then cause if one of the spouse wants to have him/herself as he/she was before marriage and the other one want him/her to adjust and they both dont show flexibility then ultimatly their love/care/understanding towards each other start diminishing and in worst situations it ends.
at that time if couple have kids they compromise for them (but in some of the they even dont do so)
so dear i think so behtar yeah hay k banda arrange marriage karay k iss main dosray say app ko koi ziadha expectations nahi hoti (love k kia hay baad main hota rahay ga apni spouse say nahi tu kissi or say lolz)
otherwise agger app kissi k love main fall ker chukay ho ya kissi ko apnay dil main jaggah day chukay hoo tu other party ko pehlay he bata doo samjha doo k main aisa/aisi hoon and tumhain aisa daikhna chahta/chahti hoon tum khud ko adjust ker sakti/saktay hoo meray liyeah tu well and good we can continue otherwise bye bye ta ta tum apni rah khush main apni rah khush
(waisay bhi i think so k love main itni power honi chaheay k yeah app ko wisa bana day jaisa dosra app ko daikhna chahta hay bina ous k kahay)
aik sawal hay meray pass though directly relevent to nahi hay lakin iska answer ralevent hay
i have seen/heard of people who have two wives both under love marriages can u people think and post the reasons.
hope to see healty debate on this by all members
especially ciapk from u cause tum hi aik hoo joe practically explain ker saktay hoo but bhai insurance ker wa layna pehlay agger sub kuch such such bolna hooo tu
or haan agger bhabhi bhi iss topic per aker bolna chahian tumhari 20-25 buraiyaan kerna chahian tu kuch ziadha informative discussion hojayegi lolz
regards
