Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage ???????

mav3r1ck · 08-30-2003, 06:47 AM

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here here, now who am i?? <img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle>

.M.

smraza · 09-01-2003, 08:02 AM

Dear mav3r1ck, thanx for mentioning, but the name "mav3r1ck" doesnt show any relationship with the sinf e nazuk, it can be of guys, and even in between people, but from your postings on this topic
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the success of any type of marriage depends upon " GIVE, GIVE, GIVE n TAKE"!!

aazmaish shart hai Wink

.M.
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sir g, this is usally for wives, they give u thrice and TAKE from u only one!
so sunar ki aik lohar ki

.M.
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i m little bit suspicious about u <img src=icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle>

S M R

sajjad_dar2000 · 09-16-2003, 10:20 PM

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In love marriage the girl wants to remain girlfriend, but the husband becomes rewaitee husband and wants to see the woman in shape of typical wife, so the clash starts right from there, then the girls usually says that he is not the same man whom with i got married.

so i think, the best situation is, arranged marriage, but if somebody has germs of Majnoon or Ranjha, then he must adopt the policy of Guybrush, i.e. first Love and then arranged <img src=icon_smile.gif border=0 align=middle>

S M R
I agree with sumraz but i add some more words. Before the marriage man canât see any bad thing in his Meboba, he gives name 'Ada' of all her bad habits but after the marriage his Mehboba becomes his wife then Ada becomes Baihayahee.

SAJJAD DAR

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Edited by - sajjad_dar2000 on Sep 16 2003 53845 PM

amam_786 · 09-22-2003, 03:30 PM

The issue of L. or ARR. marriage should be analyzed in keeping the view the success rate of both. The love marriages are still experiencing higer rate of failure.
It is clear that love marriage are result of childish behaviour. It is hard to teach a child from demanding a toy or any thing which he has wished for. The person who is getting in love with opposite gender is deprived of normal social behaviour. The reason behind this view is his ignorance of the fact that he has been loved so much by his/ or HER family, the respect of that family will be put under question by his teenage mistake. Atleast in our society (in most of the cases) he will lose the support from the family, the peoples, his or HER parents who have loved him or HER for so many years. He is so much concerned with his or HER selfish wish that he or SHE is willing to sacrifice all of them, all of loving people just for one girl or BOY whom he or SHE knows just for months. Is it not selfish behaviour?
The same tendency is applied by the boy or GIRL in their married life. They still remain selfish just wanting to enforce their own wish, no matter they lose their family again, (this they have already done once for their own selfish wish) So this is the reason for high rate of 'love marriage failure'.
The people should admit that the boy and GIRLS who fall in love do it casually so it should not be hard to sacrifice a casual thing over a more respectful, dignified, more firm thing (family).

NOTE I HAVE USED CAPS FOR FEMALES AS THEY GET MORE TROUBLE WITH LOVE MARRIAGE. THEIR FAMILY GETS IN MORE TROUBLE THEN THAT OF BOYS'.