02-20-2011, 01:39 AM
Actually, there are three questions in your letter
1. What happens if one day the person leaves us for good or for bad?
2. Why people come into our life?
3. The reasons why we are not together forever with every one we want to be.
1. It depends on how close you were with that significant one. It also depends on your emotional intelligence - the more intelligent you are, the more space this person will occupy in your soul, so thinking about him/her will take almost all your time. And it can be very painful, it's like cutting of one finger - you can live with 4 on your hand, you can use your hand pretty well, but stiil it aches...Once it took me 2 years to forget, but I forgot only because I started to see the bad sides of that significant one. One more rule - if you want to forget, then you must really want it..otherwise you will refresh your memories all the time just because you don't want to forget.
2. To teach you. Somehow you always get some knowledge from all people you meet. You can't imagine how many things I learnt from internet friend in just one year's time...sometimes it's a negative knowledge, sometimes very positive, but I always learn something new - every day. And not only about different places or cultures, mostly about people, their relationships...
3. The reasons can be very different, starting from very natural ones - like death, for example...Other reaosns...you see, I am very calm by nature, my approach is - what happens, happens for the best, so sometimes you cry and want to stay with somebody, but it only seems to you that you need him/her. Because if he/she is meant to be with you, they will be. But if not, then it's not your fate. Allah just protects you from being with the wrong person. I experienced it myself many times - I was thinking that it should have happened this way and was devastated for many years, but suddenly and in a very unexpected way I learn something about this person, and then I think - Oh, so good that nothing happened between us...so, my opinion is - be calm and enjoy your life as it is!
Hope that I answered to your questions.))
